Affirmations

So I got an email today from a friend of mine who's been dating a woman for a few weeks now. He was slightly disgruntled by the fact that he just finally had to "break things off". After what started out as slightly less than "hot and heavy" he began to feel a chill in the air...and it wasn't the usual December chill.

His new amore had turned chilly and disinterested. I assured him that the "holidays" are a challenging time for anyone to start a new romance. Even the most seasoned dating pro or debonair gentleman would find navigating the waters of the holiday season a hostile trial. There are just simply too many questions to answer:

Do I buy him/her a gift? Or will that seem to forward?
Can I invite him/her to my office "couples" party or will that seem to eager?
Is it too much of a commitment to ask he/she to go out on New Years eve? Does that send the message that I'm expecting us to be together in the new year?

Case in point. Tis much better to begin a new romance at an obscure time of year...say...March 11. There is not a "couples" holiday within months...thus navigating the world of dating becomes much less challenging and much more fun.

I also suggested to my friend that he direct said lady to my Blog about "Dating as a Business Affair". His aggravation came when he felt he was being "put off" and not dealt with in a mature manner. Yes...looking at dating as a business deal does take a certain amount of detachment...but in the beginning is that so wrong? I think not. In some cases it might even work to ones benefit. It is a practice that has been long in place for women. We play distracted and detached (no matter how wound up and neurotic we are about a gentleman) and it makes the man feel as though he is the pursuer. Though in today's age I'm not so sure that is working any longer...since after a certain age a lady doesn't feel the need to play the games any longer and would truly rather not waste the time. But I digress...

If more splendidly single folks of our generation would look at dating and dare I say it...marriage...as more of a business deal, I predict there would be less hard feelings and fewer divorces. We expect too much out of love and romance. I'd like to say it's our movies and television today that has done it...but alas it goes all the way back to ancient Greece and even later, Mr. Shakespeare. We've been doomed for quite some time now.

Would you do a multi-million dollar 60 year business deal with someone you knew nothing about? NO! You would research their financial status. Probably run a background and credit check on them to make sure they have never declared bankruptcy or been in jail. You would also check their references and make sure they don't have any family members in the clink for embezzlement. Many times you would want them to have a health check done to make sure they aren't going to die of a major heart attack one year into your business venture.

But, yet, we as humans will do none of that when putting our very financial and personal health on the line for romance. Seems a little unbalanced does it not?